Written by Tanya J. Peterson
Sociopathic parents exist and can cause great harm to their children through both emotional and physical abuse, even to the point of producing sociopathic children. In addition, co-parenting with a sociopath can be very troubling.
A sociopath is a man or a woman who cares only about him/herself (What Is A Sociopathic Person Like?). All the world is his stage, and all the people merely his puppets on a string. He is a social predator in all aspects of his life, including parenthood; he’s a sociopathic parent.
Traits of Sociopathic Parents
At the most basic level, sociopathic parents aren’t warm and fuzzy. Cold, distant, and unwelcoming, he provides neither comfort nor affection. James Fallon, a neurobiologist who studies the brains of sociopaths and happens to be one himself, is one of the rare sociopaths who has sustained a marriage over time and helped raise children. He describes his feelings toward his children as indifferent, “[d]ominated less by warmth than by entertainment and intellectual interest.”
By sociopathic standards, Fallon is “loving parent of the year”. Other sociopath parents aren’t so kind and generous. The only true feeling sociopath parents have is anger, and they typically express it loudly and physically (Do Sociopaths Cry or Even Have Feelings?). Because the expressed anger is out of proportion to whatever induced it, children are left hurt, confused, and with a sense that the world is unpredictable, illogical, and unsafe. Antisocial parents teach their children that the world is chaotic and inconsistent.
Sociopathic parents have other hallmark parenting traits that amount to psychological abuse:
Lack of attachment, bonding, love
Dismissiveness (because kids are boring)
Disregard for the child’s welfare
Harsh expectations and demands
Neglect, often extreme
Purposeful attempts to corrupt a child (exposure to pornography, encouraging delinquent behavior)
As if the sociopathic parent wasn’t bad enough, this parent is often a spouse or a partner. Co-parenting with a sociopath can be a daily challenge. In all parenting partnerships, there exists an ongoing need to negotiate and compromise; unfortunately, the sociopath neither negotiates nor compromises. Ever. Co-parenting with a sociopath creates a strained relationship that adds yet another layer of difficulty to family life (Co-Parenting With An Abuser: How to Help Your Kids, Yourself).
A Sociopath Mother!
The sociopath mother is no June Cleaver. She is much more like Game of Thrones’ Cersei Lannister. Granted, she’s excellent at emulating June Cleaver. Typical of a sociopath, this mom can morph into any persona that suits her in a given moment. When others are watching, she launches into Supermom. She dotes, she encourages, she loves, she attends. She provides the snacks at the end of the soccer game. Everyone loves SuperJune.
Then, when the game is over and the family is back home, Cersei returns. She doesn’t need SuperJune because no one is around to entrap as future tools of manipulation.
Far from being a nurturing, loving attachment figure, the sociopath mother is a cold, abusive, frightening figure representing chaos and emotional distance. She ignores and she neglects. She controls and manipulates; to the sociopathic mother, her child isn’t a person in his own right but a possession that exists to serve her. She uses insincere, shallow affection to manipulate. She hardly praises or encourages, but she lavishes the child with verbal abuse and punishment.
Society’s norms mirror our biological wiring: mothers are designed to nurture and protect, so when they don’t, the results are devastating to the child.
The Sociopathic Parent’s Effect on Their Kids
Children are adversely affected by a sociopathic parent. The exact nature and impact of the ramifications of abuse vary from child to child and are dependent upon the severity of the sociopathy and the level of functioning of the parent, the nature of the child and her level of resiliency, and the degree and presence of other support systems. Still in one way or another, every child is impacted by having a sociopath parent. Much of the harm done to a child by a sociopathic parent is seen in behavior. The child might
shrink in isolation or express problems through bullying and aggression
become easily distracted
be either overly emotional or flat
have poor school performance.
The child’s mental health is often affected as well. Approximately twenty-five percent of kids develop a mental illness such as childhood anxiety and depression (Woods, 2011). Sociopathic parents instill fear, shame, and a sense of worthlessness and self-blame in their children.
A sociopath parent is what a child fears: the monster under his bed and everywhere, and he can’t turn to this parent for comfort.
English is not my native language and I am not well educaded.
As life goes on I had a question. When I was 12 or 13 years old. On my birthday my mother bought a cake when She came home from after work. It’s too late hour so I leave it not touched that cake cause I thought will eat that cake next day after school.
The next day of my birthday When I returned home. My fucking so called “FATHER” ate whole cake that mother fucker still alive that mother fucking so called “FATHER” literally ate whole my birthday cake alone which my hard working mother bought.
I still don’t know why that fucker ate my whole birthday cake alone.
Not only me some of you know if you are interested in korean culture. Many Korean children raised by abusive parents I heard some boy’s stories which similar my memories. but I ever heard so called “FATHER or FUCKER who ate all son’s birthday cake”.
I don’t know well about that mother fucker. As I know when that mother fucker was teenage days that fucker take his parents house right document to donate church. May be House Right doesn’t exist your countries which containing the right of house selling. As here you may think that motherfucker is crazy or moron? But as I know when that mother fucking damn fucker is young ages that mother fucker win some amateur “Go(Chinese chess)” game competitions.
That mother fuckin cockroach worm fucker still alive and still live that mother fucker’s wife’s house.
Anyway just before 3~4 years ago I even can’t read English articles. As growing my English reading ability, I teached English myself, and reading about Child abuse articles I gradually knowing that I was abused almost all my life and abused cases which written in English abuse cases are almost matched which I was having. I was suicidal, but not nowaday, even I was 10 or 9 years old anyway When I was elementary schoold boy I bought a book which containing about “after lives” and when I was young I want kill myself many times. but seems not recent years.
Before I can reading English I thoght myself “even I killed fucking JESUS who son of whore?( I’m not believe any fuckin so called “GODs” go fuck islam Alah, go fuck buddah, go fuck Chist who son of whore)” that fuckin so called “PARENTS” always blamed me. This is not joke even they feel sick that cockroaches blamed me this is not joke.
Anyway I really know why male cockroach ate my 12 or 13 years-old birthday cake.
That male cockroach is not faithful christian as I saw that cockroach that mother fucker is multi-religion and really 100% example of psychopath. I got a sibling that bitch too seems psychopath. When that bitch was young really good at lying, backbiting but that psychopath bitch good at studying so that bitch well learned and living good.
As I seeing so called “FATHER” that male cockroach seems thinking himself as blood of noblesse but my point of view that cockroach is alchol addicted, promiscuous sex life, really lazy, that cockroach’s all speak only lies even don’t need situation that cockroach say lying.
My sibling is too seems strange character that bitch got high IQ but seems strange personality as I growing up with that female psychopath.
Ye I was seeing Mental Counselor cause of my fucking so called “FAMILY” advised me go Mental Center so I saw Mental Doctor(Psychiatrist). I said to him about that fuckin nerd cockroach. He says to me “You seems got personality disorder slightly but seems fine”. but that fuckin so called “FAMILY” that mother fuckers ever go seeing Psychiatrist.
Cause of Korea Culture or so fuckin this slave country anyway. I hardly tell such about these. such this is one of many Korean taboos.